Monday, 26 April 2010

The True FAN

Mumbai just lost the IPL season 3 finals. I am disappointed. I rooted for them all throughout the 3 years. So i do feel bad for them. Anyone who follows IPL knows that the 1 team that was consistent throughout the tournament was MUMBAI.
So what does a fan do now? when the team has just failed to clear the last hurdle? do we leave it? start following the team that wins all the  time??!! now that is what a true fan will never do.
Lets look at England... Fans there root for their football club since their birth. cuz thats where they belong. your local club is YOUR club. You cheer the players, cuz they're from one of your neighboring families. they are your kids. and you feel protective about them... like a mother does... that is what i feel a true fan is...

Like a mother to the team...giving strength in time of weakness...cheering on when the storm is against them...raving about them to others like they're the best in the world...fighting with others if they say something against their baby...NEVER leaving them when they are down and out...celebrating their victories with them... and mourning their losses with them...a true fan always sticks to his team...no matter how the situation changes...his heart beats for them...

Hope everyone out there finds their teams too... I love you Mumbai... I love you Mumbai Indians... I love you Arsenal... I love you Rog Fed...I'll be there for you, ALWAYS.. Thats the promise of a true fan :)

Saturday, 24 April 2010

Graphology & Perception

I have done 1 level of graphology and i can proudly say that it has taught me more about people than all my life combined. A lot of people dont, but i do firmly believe that a person's handwriting is a mirror of their personality.

After analysing more than 50 handwritings and a near 95% accuracy in interpretation, i can say that how much ever similar people's handwritings maybe, they're inherently different. its like millions of styles of every alphabet and stroke and then the permutation and combination between them!! Thats a lot!!

A lot of people (during the analysis) ask me... 'What does this mean? Good or bad??' To be honest, thats a very difficult question. For instance: Say something shows stubbornness. That person can use it both ways. He can be stubborn, in terms of not-adjusting with someone else. Not considering someone else's point of view. But that can also mean that the person has a strong determination. They'll stick to their motivations and goals till the end. They wont give up easily. Thats such a positive thing!! But i also add a note: Its how you use this to your advantage, which is important.
Its quite a skill to stop myself from analysing every handwriting and ever signature that i see. This science is so perceptive, you can know things about the other person, which they themselves did not know! Hell, you'll end up knowing yourself much better.

But what is important to note here that its all about perception. Its the way you use your trait/skill to your advantage, to give that extra edge over the world. When you know yourself, you know your strengths, weakness, capabilities and inabilities, trust me, you'll spend far less time analysing yourself and checking your arsenal. All you have to do then is graft a plan that suits you. Its all about how YOU percieve it!! Don't think of the world as black and white, its all grey!!

Outdated!

Science is one of the fastest things in our life today. Today's latest technology is outdated tomorrow. who would've imagined that touch-screen phones would be so affordable... 3 years ago, it was a matter of awe and prestige. Today, its a way of life. ditto with the blackberrys and the iphones of the world.

Not just technology, but the general standard of living also becomes outdated. Fashions change. i feel obsolete when i see people 5 years younger than me flaunting their wealth...which in reality is not even their hard-earned money!! the generation gap has reduced from 20-25 years to 5 years. My grandparents and parents can relate to each other... me and my parents..hardly.. i wonder what will it be between me and my kids??!! a B.Com was considered a great degree 30 years ago. Today no one gives you a second thought with just B.Com on your C.V. Competition is just raising the bar consistently.

Also somewhere the hierarchy of the society is disturbed. An employee doesn't respect his boss because he's not updated with the latest software.. Kids become impatient with parents cuz they aren't as comfortable with the  computer and the internet. and there are kids who've grown up surrounded by gadgets...and somehow their childhood is lost there.they grow up so fast that you don't feel they are of 10 or 12 years.

But in this hustle and bustle, the sweet taste of life is forgotten. How delicious is the food cooked in open and in the traditional way as compared to something as (i dare say!!) 'tasteless' as a microwave!! and how a hand written letter can do so much more than an email or 'tweet'!! how youth and teenage was more about the 'first love' than entrance exams!!

Lets enjoy this life. we're given only shot. and technology is a tool. we're already way too dependent on that. lets try living life as humans too. And not just another pair of profiles on facebook!!

Tuesday, 20 April 2010

asking the right questions

many a times, our life is complicated... the choices are just too many and time is always running out. whenever this kind of situation comes, i believe in asking questions...the right questions. questions that can give an answer for any situation in the human mind.

What?- define the problem correctly and clearly... understand what exactly is the thing you are targeting.
Where? & When?- the place and time largely define the context of our interpretation. 'am' & 'pm' can change the problem... similarly the place too... whether you are at work or home or with friends or another country!!!
How?- the root cause of the situation can be discovered by this question, 'how did it happen?' or 'how did this come into the picture?'... and that is always important to decide any further course of action.
Why?- a very important question as far as inter personal relations are concerned... why is it that you are interested in that particular problem. its important to identify your own interest before concluding any thing.

The important part here is that the answers have to be truthful and completely honest. otherwise the exercise is a failure. the world might not know your answers, but you do...and that's what matters!!

Wednesday, 14 April 2010

Fuzz Therapy


The best medicines to cheer one up:
1. FRIENDS!! No matter where they are in this world...they have an amazing ability to suck out all sorrow and get those smiles back... the very presence...a hug...can do wonders.. Needless to say Hobbes is just perfect for the part!!
2. Mom ke haath ka khana. when your mother prepares your favorite dish for dinner...any day is beautiful...rotten or not!!
3.Watching your favourite stuff on TV. It may be your favorite soap opera, your fav sports team winning a match, TOM & JERRY!!, F.R.I.E.N.D.S., etc... It works like magic...
4.Music. It has amazing pleasing powers. listening to music thats positive, vibrant and that makes you smile all the time can really turn any bad day upside-down...
5.Relax. Go have a nice loooong shower. then take off to bed. Sleep is just a great medicine. if the whole week has been bad...then a week-end break is the least what one deserves... a resort or a spa is the ideal place to just lounge around...

Try the Fuzz Therapy and experience the difference!! :) :)

P.S.: Dedicated to my friends and Calvin & Hobbes...you are my 'Fuzz Therapy'!!

Monday, 12 April 2010

Mothers


My parents are out for a week!! So i have to handle my house... Gosh!! I always knew it was a difficult job...but this is really really a big deal...
i realized how my mother was always a solution for any problem... any question was answered by her and anything and everything you need is always there with her. as a kid, she is your universe. she knows you better than any other person... and make no mistake she really does. it an eye-opener when you think she doesn't anticipate you doing this or that but she knows exactly what is going to be your next step!! Mothers are indeed the best guardian angels God gave to us. they're always there... ever-present. and they've seen you doing all kinds of embarrassing things...cleaned all kinds of shit and never loved you any less.
They run households and they largely make us what we are. We might have a certain role model elsewhere in the outside world.. but deep down, at the core we're defined by our upbringing...our mothers... we might fold clothes in a certain manner that they do, we may like eating cabbage because they did or we may be a  prudent person because she always knew the exact amount of pocket-money you needed!! all these finer day-to-day things that make a person can be the result of their mothers!!
i just want to say to my mom and all other moms of the world, that WE LOVE YOU!! Even though we don't say that too often, we mean that every single moment of this life that you have given us!! THANK YOU for being there and thank you for all that you've done. Life is unimaginable without U!!

Monday, 5 April 2010

Being Equal...

What i am going to write today is something fairly common in conservative Indian homes... not in the more 'modern' Indian families that reside in metros and where parents are comfortable watching kissing scenes with their kids...

One important characteristic of a 'conservative' Indian home is that a girl child is always expected to do certain things and have certain responsibilities... a similar incident happened with me... my aunt asked me to clean my bathroom. i asked her why didnt she ever ask my brothers to do that... i share it with them!! i always do it. For a change let them do it this time...

She replied: At times i feel that u are trying to be an equal... My aunt's one line put my wheels of thought in motion... Gosh!! I thought I AM EQUAL!! it never crossed my mind that i am considered inferior!! I can beat my brothers at almost everything (Except sports!). even they consider me an equal. but its the older generation that has a problem accepting this...

For them the role of a girl is in 2 categories: Primary: Taking care of the household. Secondary: Working or even having a life outside the four walls. and if a girl expects her husband/brother to share the chores, she is considered to be too demanding.

What is wrong if there's equal sharing of work??!! why should just one party be responsible for everything? Women today don't ask men to stay at home and do the cooking. even men today accept readily the notion of an 'Equal' Partner.. But its the Generation Gap that makes a lot of parents and relatives feel 'out of place'.

My message to all parents and relatives: We are like that! The whole Generation... We consider ourselves equals. A girl is expected to know banking and a guy is expected to know cleaning. We're taught that from the moment we step into a school till the time we get a degree. We grew up with it....U, please learn to live with it.