It happened with me, recently. I was shit scared of something and then it happened!! And I was cursing my luck!! How cud it be so bad!! And I spent the next few days, to come up with some way to get out of it or some loophole. But it was not meant to be. And finally I embraced it. (As if I had an option!) But it didn’t turn out as horrifying as I expected it to be… the resultant feeling will make sure the next 4 months of my life wont be as cruel as I had earlier thought them to be.
Which got me thinking… anticipation is such a punishment. We build up something in our head and stay in that impression for the longest time. In reality, things may not be as horrific or rosy as we anticipated them to be. Sure, this expectation is a result of experience, gut feeling and a lot of communication. But till we don’t give it a shot, we’ll never know if we over/ under estimated things.
More than events, this is applicable to people. For instance, I hate smoking. I try to avoid people who smoke. But I am friends with people who smoke. (I still don’t approve of the smoking part!). Had I not known those people, I would’ve hated those people all my life and lose some friends. We are humans. We mirror the opposite person. If we don’t start positive, chances are that the end isn’t positive too.
Let that little voice in your head say, we’ll like each other and this will turn out to be great! You just raised the odds in your favour.
